My darling husband and I eloped on New Years Eve, 2014. We snuck away to a beautiful little square in Savannah, GA, just 11 days after he proposed.
It has been almost a year now, and boy oh boy has this year been crazy. Just four days after we said “I do,” Jake left again to go back to training for the Army. I went from Army Girlfriend who’s boyfriend isn’t home, to Army Fiance, to Army Wife, and then Army Wife who’s husband isn’t home in a matter of two weeks.
I signed up for this, I know I did. Jake and I have been best friends for so long (I’ll save that post for another rainy day..,) and I knew well before we were together that He planned on joining the military. Just a few months after we got together (the day before my birthday, actually) he swore in. Five short months later, he left for Basic Training. That was easily some of the longest, loneliest, and hardest weeks of my life. I was so thankful when he graduated Basic Training and moved on to AIT.
At AIT he was granted more freedoms, and more access. The conversation that happened after I dropped him off changed things. We hadn’t even planned on getting engaged until he was back home, and then getting married the following fall. Both of us were severely (and for good reason) upset, when we had to once again say goodbye. We were texting later that night, and I made the joke that we should get married when he came home over Christmas…little did I know that he took it seriously.
The closer it got to him coming home, the more plans we made. We decided that while he was home for his two weeks of Holiday leave, we would get married. If you’re thinking we’re crazy, this is actually pretty common in military relationships. We knew that getting married would enable me to go see him once a month until his training was over. Logistics aside, being apart and going through this, along with everything else we had experienced, made us ready for it. I found an officiant, bought a white dress and a bouquet, and even some converse to surprise him with. (If you know my husband, you know that he has a severe converse addiction.)
I didn’t need a grand proposal, but knowing Jake’s heart, I didn’t expect anything less. I’ll write a formal post on it later, but let’s just say it was practically perfect in every way, and something I’ll never forget.
11 days later we snuck away to Savannah. We had originally planned to do it in town, with our parents present, but my mom and step-dad were going out of town (we couldn’t exactly ask them not to,) and Jakes friend had flaked on getting officiated, so we adjusted our plans.
Only two people other than the officiant were there, a photographer and a friend from work to be her assistant. Some people stopped as they were walking by to watch, but at that moment the only person I could see was him. It was beautiful and perfect.
It’s been almost a year, and I still love the decision we made. Nothing ever goes as planned, but it was still perfect for us. The four months he was gone after we got married were so tough, there were so many sleepless nights. We were supposed to be on our honeymoon, not separated, right? I felt that way so many times.
I LIVED for those weekend visits. My Facebook and instagram pages were a constant countdown. I had a written one above the sink I changed daily. I did whatever I could to get me through those days.
Jake graduated all of his training and came home last April. I was the best late birthday present EVER. He’s been home several months now, and sometimes it still feels like he just got home. I don’t take a single minute for granted.
In the few months that he has been home, we have moved 600 miles, both started new jobs, got our first house, rescued a new puppy, and several other life changes. It has been a whirlwind, but I love every single day.
Now let’s talk weddings… Do I regret eloping? Not even for a second. Sure, we got a little backlash. We are both adults, and made our own choice. We do plan on having a wedding to celebrate with loved ones, and I will be sharing that journey along with all of you! Feel free to leave any comments with any questions you may have, or if you are thinking about possibly eloping and want some advice!